To start this, I should say that I think its totally normal and acceptable for someone to have a slight preference on the sex of their unborn child. I think a lot of women (but not all) say they have a slight preference for a girl because, well, we are girls. A baby girl seems more familiar and we know we can relate. Or, a woman already has a baby of one sex and would like to have one of each. I get it. Before I knew I was having a boy, I probably would have told you that if I had a preference, it would be for a girl. I just sort of assumed I'd be better at raising a girl, having been a young girl myself. The thing is....once you find out who the little baby inside of you is, you love it. No matter what. I am SO excited to be having a boy and, honestly, if the doctor were to say "Oops, its actually a girl", I would be really upset. I want my baby boy.
Here's what I don't get. Why do people think its acceptable to make comments to a pregnant woman about the sex of her baby and how it's not what they want?
I have had people make the stupidest comments to me about having a boy.* Comments range from mild--a co-worker telling me she "just looooooves little girls. but not boys"--to extreme. Like this:
I was out on Friday with some friends. Friend X just got engaged, so another friend asked her if they were planning on having children.
Friend X: Well, I'm sort of undecided about having kids because, to be honest, I'll only want the baby if its a girl. [pause] No offense Kristen.
Me: Ah, the good thing is, once you are pregnant, you'll love the baby no matter what it is!
Friend X: Uhhh no I won't. I want a girl.
WELL ALRIGHTY THEN.
She then proceeded to explain her idiotic reasons for only wanting a girl--you know, because girls clothes are soooo much cuter than boys. Seriously? Anything I tried to counter with (because I was feeling a little defensive of my baby boy at this point)--I've found really cute boy stuff!--she shot down and argued with me. I gave up, but sat there the rest of the night silently fuming.
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE? You get what you get, and you thank God you have a healthy baby.
Bottom line? If someone tells you they are having a (boy, girl), then the only acceptable response is "Congratulations! (Boys,girls) are so great!" THAT'S IT. How hard is that?
*Note, I'm sure if I were having a girl I would have people saying equally stupid comments about how boys are better and "Don't you want a boy for your husband?" There's no winning in this situation.